How NOT to get stuck in the crippling vortex of overgiving
Ever accuse yourself of being “bad” or selfish?
Even in the midst of a totally unfair or unbalanced situation in which boundaries are being crossed left and right, how many of us have thought to ourselves,
“Urgh, I was just trying to be nice, and they really needed my help! How can I back out now? They’re gonna think I’m rude, and a flake and (insert whatever other accusation).”
The reason I know this internal melodrama to be true is because I know you’re a giver.
All of my readers are.
As a giver myself, it’s who I naturally attract and intend to empower.
Because giving — when you’re a “do my best, help anyone I can” type giver, can actually be quite hard.
And the reason it’s hard, is because giving comes so easy.
(Hello: Catch 22.)
It’s why you have these seemingly small situations in which, “Sure, no problem!” … becomes a problem.
When, “Oh yeah I can totally help you!” becomes, “Dude, you need to be paying me for this.”
Or when the thought of saying no, or setting boundaries after the fact makes you think,
“Eeeek, but wouldn’t that make me selfish?”
If the above statement has ever made you awkwardly cringe, I want you to remember this:
It’s only givers who accuse themselves of being selfish, because truly selfish people aren’t conscious enough to be concerned one way or another.
Setting boundaries and giving back to yourself does not make you selfish.
It makes you healthy.
And ironically, it’s this healthy balance of give and receive that allows us to be able to give in the first place.
Watch today's post and get inspired to start giving back to yourself, and keeping that pretty cup of yours FULL.
Because you deserve it.
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